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The challenges of loving someone on the spectrum, and supporting their career.

The last 2 times have been so frustrating. I have made excuses for him over the years, I’ve joined support groups. I understand Autism pretty well by choice. I try not to react but sometimes he is so rude, that I am trigger to react. When I react, he calls me weak and emotional. Honestly, when I set boundaries and did not allow him access to me, it was much easier.

I understand that he will say off the wall things and does not comprehend what I say a lot of the time…but man, I don’t want to compromise my integrity and personality to make it work…it’s just gotten old and exhausting. I opened up communication with him just a little bit ago and it does not feel good. I’m sure so much of it is me, because I don’t want to deal with the rudeness of this life challenge.

I know he is unaware and communication and social skills are challenged and I feel guilty for getting frustrated with it. But there is no balance and no give and take.

I respect him as a man, father and great talent but not a person who gets me and makes me feel respected.

Where’s the win win…I’m tired.

I’ve made excuses and now I’m tired of understanding Autism.

I’m just venting. I write about the challenges of having people I care that are on the Autism Spectrum. It is not being disrespectful, it’s being real about the frustrations.

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Clearly I wrote this blog out of frustration. I think that is out, because it’s being real and owning a reaction I have to a challenging relationship.

This morning I listened to Jay Shetty. Jay said, “the frustration and disconnect comes from having expectations of others that don’t fit what you think they should be like. We need to identify what they bring to the table and leave it right there and appreciate the value.” Even I have heard this in a variety of ways before, it resonated with me this morning and eased my spirit regarding my Aspie and others that I get frustrated with.

I found I need to add this follow up to this post. I have no regrets in sharing my vulnerability and my revelation. I have to make a decision if I can deal with this person or is it time to close the door.

May 27.2022 Opening Day for Top Gun “Maverick” and my jobs CEO rented out a theater at Palace Station for all the staff to come out and experience this movie with him. I went and enjoyed although I chose to sit in a section alone.

If you saw the first Top Gun that was released in 1986, wow it was that long ago…it wasn’t a surprise the loud sounds of the jets and from the opening scene, you attention was grabbed with anticipation.

The next generation of Naval fighter pilots were taken to the next level to be the best with the guidance of Maverick (Tom Cruise) who not only taught through words but actual example.

With hesitation as his former flight partner and best friend, Goose’s son Rooster is apart of this crew. Feeling the essence of wanting him to stay safe without pushing him to the limits of a fighter pilot in combat and flight challenges and the wanting him to be the best of the best, like his father who the lost to this Naval Flight raging potential outcome.

The crew learned from and respected this seasoned pilot and now their mentor in life. With cockiness and pure arrogance or unspoken timid fear but with the heart of Naval Top Gun Fighter Pilots, they all step up.

The energy of this movie was exciting. A variety of emotions were felt through the characters and scenes. With flashbacks to the first Top Gun to the next generation, a prideful purpose was felt from Iceman pushing Maverick into another stage of greatness. The others in leadership as Iceman, I believe knew what Maverick could do with this crew but hesitated in allowing him to do the unthinkable with the blessings due to the high risk factor.

Pride, team trust, rekindled love, growth and faith and feelings with strength are felt.

This is a movie that was great and I would watch it again and again as I did the first version.

Did he win the girl back? 😊

With the memories of friendship to the present pride of mentor slash uncle. Sadness, pain and forgiveness is present between Maverick and Rooster.

As an Empath I experience life and Art different than most, but I felt the life lessons out of an intense military story. It’s not just about oneself but your decisions can and will impact others.

I’m grateful to my boss for making this opportunity available to us on opening day of Top Gun “Maverick “. Going to the movies was a nice change for me.

I highly recommend this movie with a loud 10 Flava Snaps 😁

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I DO NOT OWN THE RIGHTS TO THE MEDIA THAT I SHARED IN THIS REVIEW.

Intentional learning is the mindset of seeing every experience as an opportunity to learn something new. The desire to learn should always be in our consciousness, where we approach everyday situations and gain new knowledge. Intentional learning could be key the key to success in tomorrow’s world.

Jan 5, 2021

https://learntechasia.com › intention…

Of course I think about how artists and entertainers should always master their craft through practice, rehearsals and learning new techniques or exploring a different direction.

But I’m beginning to think that it goes beyond mastering one’s craft…it think that intellectual stimulation creates more ability to visualize beyond where one is. There are so many ways to push ourselves beyond what we know today.

Google and YouTube are wonderful resources to expand what we know. It can push is to think beyond what we know and see things differently. It can set a fire to where we desire to learn something new, try a different approach, design a presentation in a fresh way and more.

I’m speaking from personal and professional experience. In many ways I have been suck in how I understand this industry of Arts & Entertainment that I choose to be apart of. It has changed so much, so how do I fit in and what can I do with the new information that I’ve learned.

I’m going to push myself to learn more about technology such as Zoom and Photoshop. I hear stories differently too. When I listen and feel the experience of Art, Creative SoulZ…I not only pay attention to how I feel but what I believe the person(s) intentions are in what they want your experience to be. This is the Empath in me. I crave learning new things and pushing myself. I like the idea of leading by example.

So, I would encourage you to go beyond what you know today and see how a shift can take place in your lift. Growth can allow others to experience something new from you.

Brain stimulation will help as we age and this is so important to lessen the chance of dementia.

Thinking Out Loud…

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I believe that everyone should have a mentor that they trust, that schools you, motivate you and pushes you do the hard things.

Throughout my years as Lady Flava and honestly throughout my life I have always had people who were high achievers, researchers with a desire to constantly learn.

You should want people that you can have a give and take connections that bring out the best in each other. You can always be an inspiration to your mentor.

I feel you need others to bounce ideas off of to share your creations with to get their honest opinions. Stay away from family and friends for honest feedback.

Grow a backbone and want the truth, the truth may not be so bad if you can receive it graciously and determine what to do with it.

People want good things expressed, but you should want to hear challenging opinions that come from a good place.

Who’s your mentor? Do you have a mentor? Are you a mentor? If you don’t have one, explore what possible opportunities there might be to find one.

It’s Time To Connect!

Mentors Rock! Find a Mentor in The Industry that you are drawn to.

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Sharing My Thoughts

I’ve been thinking about this for years, for myself and for the creative soulz that I pay attention to.

I have spent numerous hours researching and listening to videos, podcasts and simply following those identified as influencers.

It really doesn’t make sense to beyond you need to connect.

Years ago as I researched the music industry, I heard it said (and I will reference this often) when people start writing about you, that means they are paying attention and that’s what you want, that’s when you know you have made it.

There’s an honoring when people are talking about you, writing about you, sharing about you to their people and networks.

Do you know The Who’s in Your Life as a Public Entity?

Who’s your Real Fans?

It’s one thing when we try to tell you who we are and what we do, but it is a greater thing when others are doing it for us.

Our Fans are our BEST form of Promotion.

So it’s time to pay attention to who is paying attention and sharing….not just showing up, but encouraging others to pay attention too.

What if, just what if we did this for each other…the ones we claim to appreciate what the are doing.

It’s something to think about, right? 🤔

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As I’ve been exploring what direction I wanted to take my support of indie creative soulz, I felt a shift coming. I lost interest in radio and even making promos for others, but I found a passion for telling peoples stories. I want to write my truth about what I feel or what I experience. I want to give creative soulz the opportunity to tell their story.

Many times in the Indie Arena of Arts and Entertainment the world never hears about the amazing talents out there. There is very little online documentation of creatives that we may cross paths with in person or online.

Years ago, as I was researching the Music Industry…I came across an Artist House video where the industry person said, “you know you have made it when people start writing about you.” This information has stuck with me.

In my move to Las Vegas I have met and experienced many great talents. I have spent numerous hours researching Vegas Entertainers, Black Vegas Entertainment and have found little or nothing on these performers.

So, I came up with the concept of “Tell Your Story with Flava.” Giving an opportunity to seasoned entertainers to have their story documented. I’ve only done one so far but my goal is to open this up to creative soulz from near and far.

Although, I’ve been writing reviews and blogs or doing vlogs for years…I’ve never just focused myself in this direction. God and I have had many conversations about what I should be focusing on as a supporter of creative soulz and right now it’s writing, vlogging and taking pictures.

I’m excited and I welcome you to follow my journey in connecting with creative soulz in Las Vegas but not limited to just local talents and businesses. Yes, I love writing about my experience of encountering small businesses too.

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Sharing My Thoughts

As I have been doing my research on the Music Industry, I have come across some disturbing findings. Now, I wouldn’t question what I came across so much if it wasn’t for several sources saying the same thing and including the same mainstream people.

Some of it comes down to Illuminati references (control and monetary gain.) Many references to a Party At The Mansion were man were sent to a fashion designer to see if isolated males would were small shirts and tight clothing. If their were willing, they got a pass to go to The Mansion Party were Male on Male Sex was forcibly or willingly performing. Again, this act included some very known names.

Several mainstream artists referenced the Devil or Satan in talk or music.

Of course I cannot confirm what I read and heard, but again several known sources and not know sources (at least to me) shared the same stories.

I guess, the bottom line on why I chose to write this Blog is to encourage you to understand the Music Industry and what your desires are, what you want to get out of it. Know who you are connecting yourself to and doing business with.

Do your research and understand as much as you can. Find and informed mentor. Be mindful on what and who you get involved with in the music industry.

I would say, keep it simple and build on your own and pay attention to what you see and hear. Not everyone is legit or sincere.

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