Are you holding a grudge?

What is a grudge

A strong feeling of anger and dislike for a person who you feel has treated you badly, especially one that lasts for a long time.

A feeling of deep-seated resentment or ill will.

How does holding a grudge hurt you?

Negatively affect your mental health: Holding a grudge may increase your chances of experiencing anxiety, depression, and other mental health conditions,

This was a good blog challenge…It’s caused to to really think about the place that life’s pains have effected me then and now. So I had to do some soul searching before I wrote my thoughts.

Thinking about Grudges, this is challenging. As I age, I have worked hard on forgiveness and letting go. I do think the forgetting part is harder to do, than the forgiveness part. I’ve writing about changing perspective and owning up to my part in a negative situation. This is part of my growth over the years…it did not happen overnight, and I am still a work in progress.

I am pondering this subject as I write…Grudges, I must admit I probably still hold some distant grudge against certain people that I have crossed paths with, but my way of dealing with them and the situation is to not think about them. I have always had a way of closing the door and not acknowledging that someone or something exists. In living life this way, I am not affected, but I suppose that in present or future situations may trigger a feeling based off an experience. I don’t think that can be really identified as a grudge per say, it’s just a life trigger.

I do think that for a short period of time I hold a grudge and then let it go,  in some cases though and when it’s with a repeat offender that are family…I hold a longer and am leery to deal with them in the future. 

I have a brother in law who’s life decisions have not only effected his life, his immediate family…it has effected my daughter and granddaughter. I resent him for his choices having a negative impact on their lives. So, I guess presently I am holding a grudge against him.

Grudges, that’s a hard one when to be honest about…when you feel violated in someone way by someone that plays a significant role in your life, it hurts deeply. If it is someone that I am not really connected to, I get over it quickly.

What are your thoughts around Grudges?

LadyFlava of LadyFlavaNews

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