We’ve know each other 48 years and have drifted in and out of each other’s lives in between. Now that I am back home, I asked him to promise that we do not drift apart again.

Each time we come back together there is always a sense of peace, comfort and a sense of safety. As he would say, “life happens,” and we drift apart again.

Right before I moved home, I called to let him know I was returning. He was happy and then informed me that he was just diagnosed with cancer and would be starting intense radiation and chemotherapy right away. I thank God that I was returning home.

I cried and I prayed God to return me home safely and allow me to be there to support, Peace through this scary time in his life, in any way that I could.

I’ve written about this in my Blog, Cancer Sucky: https://flavanews.com/2023/07/16/cancer-sucks/

We have known each other as teens, when I was a young single mom, when he slept on the floor, to great jobs, him with a face car, me newly divorced and as we both move into life as senior citizens…aches and pains , body limitations and becoming homebodies.

He didn’t understand why I chose to move to Vegas but he supported me with my decision and he supported my return home.

Well, with the pains emotionally and physically of the diagnosis of cancer to the horrendous cancer treatments which to a toll on his body and mental wellbeing. I stayed supportive the best way I knew how and took the clues of what he would allow or not allow me to do for him.

He had to face the reality that he physically could not work while going through treatment, to facing financial difficulties and the possibilities of having to move. Oh, my prayers have been going up for my Peace big time.

He had to return to work which has been challenging. I would just listen and allow him to vent.

He recently got the news the news that the cancer was all gone and would need to be seen every 3 months, so the doctors can stay on top of his health in case it return.

I immediately gave thanks to God. 🙏

But shortly after, my Peace went negative…complaining about the medical costs, rent going up and on and on. He wouldn’t let me come by and seemed irritable with me, but I didn’t take it to heart. I tried not to react and gave him space. He stopped responding to my text messages too. I just prayed and didn’t react.

I stayed grateful to God and knew that God was working things out and I had to trust the process as his friend and loved one.

Today is college football Saturday, so I wished him a happy football day and told him that I was doing well and what my plans were for the day by text message. I received no response. So, I decided to call. The conversation started out fine and went so drastically wrong, with him lashing out at me for no reason. I told him he was being rude and that made it worse, but I stood my ground with love. I was not going to own his poor treatment and immediately forgave him to myself.

I know he is dealing with a lot, and I was probably the one who got a taste of his mental pain.

3 hours later he called me, (I quietly thanked God) he called to apologize. He said that he had to stop and think why he treated me so poorly and profusely expressed remorse. Of course I forgave him. He said he didn’t want to loose me and he didn’t want to push me away. I told him I wasn’t going to let him push me away and we laughed. I told him that I appreciated the call and now he could go back to his football.

I thank God for this phone call.

I have not had people to acknowledge their poor treatment of me, with no apologies for how they made me feel sadness in such a long time, if ever. I am grateful to know I matter that much to him, that it disturbed his spirit, so he had to called. He told me that he doesn’t like to apologize, but he had to with me because I did nothing wrong and he didn’t want to loose me.

My heart is so grateful, this was by God’s design, I know this.

My Peace, My Lifetime Love…we are good, we are good. 🙏 Today was proof that our relationship matters to him.

When you love someone and you know it’s a sincere connection, don’t give up when there are bumps in the road…even Soulmates face friendship challenges. He and I will always come back together with peace. Today was proof of that.

LadyFlava of LadyFlavaNews

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