Good communication is KEY in all kinds of relationships.

No response is apart of communication!

#somethingtothinkabout

~Lady Flava~ (first post 2017)

com·mu·ni·ca·tion

/kəˌmyo͞onəˈkāSH(ə)n/

noun

1. 1. the imparting or exchanging of information or news.

The older I get; I have reflected on challenging relationships and communication wither it be personal or professional.  I will maintain when I encountered a person who is undiagnosed on the Spectrum and joined 2 support groups due to the trauma that the relationship brought into my life….I have reflected in challenges I have encountered when having conversations with a variety of people.  I didn’t understand the why, when I have always been told that I am a good communicator and well spoken.  Where was the disconnect.  Autism taught me that not everyone’s brains are developed the same way, and some may have a fully developed brain when others may be lacking parts that allows them to understand and maneuver amongst a variety of mindset.  Many are brilliant and high achieving in specific areas such as math or creativity.  I also realize that they are many times not understanding others awes at what they are able to do and at the same time they are unable to sit and have patience to teach someone else.

I my opinion, those of us that think we are great a communicating, need to accept that there are going to be those that get what we are saying…so what do we do with that. I think that we can find different ways to say the same thing or simply get creative with visuals or whatever to help express what we are trying to share…then if all else fails, be okay that we are not going to be understood and let it go. Again, I know that I have felt frustration when I have felt I was not understood and have always tried to find another approach or words to express…not I understand that a person is not being rude or ignorant about listening and responding appropriately, they clearly may not hear the information the way that we would like, and the potential frustration maybe felt.

Stay calm and in the moment explore if there if a different way that you could share and if not, leave it at, I am sorry that you are unable to understand what I am talking about.

When I moved to Vegas, I has a mindset of how things should be done for Arts and Entertainment participants. It was based off the years I have worked with a variety of capacities with independent artists and what they need to achieve and succeed beyond what they were doing. I had great industry mentors, and I am a researcher, when I want or need to know somethings…I will research. So, when I would share information in Vegas 75% seemed to respond as if I was speaking a foreign language. Some would let the worlds go in one ear and out the other, while others would sit back and let me do the work to create what I was speaking about but not even use what I have created. This was a good lesson for me to learn, just because I think I makes sense and was transferable to their area of the arts and entertainment industry, that maybe if really did not make sense to them. I had to learn to step back and not throw myself into something that ends up frustrating me and possibly who I wanted to assist.

You know how the big thing these days it to learn each other’s love languages,  I think we need to stop and pay attention to what each other’s communication styles are, to create the best interactions.

No matter what walk of life you come from and no matter what your foundation looks like, you need to be able to effectively communicate with others….you need to be as affective as possible with communication to lessen miscommunication as much as possible. As most of us know that when we don’t feel heard and understood, frustrations can arise and get out of hand.

Understand your own style of communication and the why and then pay attention to if your style works for who you are trying to connect with.

Communication is Key!

 

LadyFlava of LadyFlavaNews

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