Are you a good judge of character?

I sat with this question for a while before writing. I knew I wanted to respond, but I also wanted to reflect honestly.

Five years ago, I would have confidently said yes—that I was a pretty good judge of character. And for the most part, I believe that was true. But over time, I’ve had a few surprising misses that really threw me for a loop. Each one came with a lesson—some gentle, others not so much.

There have been times when I judged someone too quickly, too harshly, without giving them the space to truly reveal who they are. And then there were other times when I trusted too soon, only to later discover I should have waited, observed more, and leaned into my inner voice just a little longer.

As an Empath and a Cancer, I’m very much an energy feeler. I’ve walked away from people and even places when the energy felt off or heavy. Sometimes I can’t explain it, but I trust it.

Still, I’ve come to realize that my ability to judge character often depends on what’s going on within me. If I’m tired, overwhelmed, or emotionally raw, it can cloud my usual clarity. So while I do have a strong sense of people, I’ve also learned that being a good judge of character isn’t just about reading others—it’s about staying grounded and in tune with myself, too.

So am I a good judge of character?

Most of the time, yes. But I also recognize I’m still learning. And I’m okay with that.

Lady Flava aka Susan K

Simply Flava – Sharing My Thoughts