When Presence Feels Like a Problem

By Susan Koshi – Simply Flava Reflections

There are moments in life when you start to wonder…

Am I too present? Too visible? Too much?

I walk into spaces with intention.

I greet with warmth, I support where I can, and I bring a quiet structure to the things I touch.

I believe in showing up fully — not just in body, but in spirit.

But lately, I’ve found myself questioning whether my presence somehow unsettles others.

Not because I’m loud. Not because I dominate. But simply because I am there — grounded, aware, and engaged.

When you choose to bring your whole self into the world, it creates a ripple.

Some people will feel comforted by your steadiness.

Others will feel threatened by your light.

And so the doubt creeps in…

“Maybe I should pull back.”

“Maybe I care too much.”

“Maybe I should’ve just stayed quiet.”

But I remind myself: My presence is not a problem.

My presence is a reflection of love — love for the work, the people, the purpose.

It is a reflection of integrity — the kind that shows up even when no one’s watching.

It is a reflection of legacy — rooted in those who came before me, who taught me to stand tall and speak kindly.

I cannot control how my presence lands in someone else’s story.

But I can choose how I carry myself in my own.

So today, I return to center.

Not shrinking. Not silencing.

Just being — fully, authentically, peacefully.

Because the world does not need less presence.

It needs more people willing to show up with heart.

Susan K aka Lady Flava

Simply Flava Sharing Her Thoughts