🔑 Communication Is Still the Key

Then & Now Reflections from Lady Flava

In 2017, I wrote a short blog post that said:

“Good communication is KEY in all kinds of relationships.

No response is a part of communication!”

— Lady Flava

That message still holds true. And today, in 2025, I find myself revisiting this topic—not just as a writer or advocate, but as a woman who has lived through another eight years of lessons in connection, misunderstanding, and grace.

🌱 Then: What I Was Learning

Back then, I had just come out of a difficult experience with someone I later came to believe was undiagnosed on the Autism Spectrum. The trauma of that relationship led me to join support groups and rethink everything I thought I understood about communication.

I had always been told I was articulate, a good communicator, clear with my intentions. So why was I constantly misunderstood in some spaces? Why did my words seem to bounce off walls rather than land?

That season taught me something powerful:

Communication is not just about expressing ourselves.

It’s about how information is received—and sometimes, it won’t be.

I learned that neurodivergent individuals might interpret or process language in different ways. I also learned that brilliance in one area doesn’t always translate to ease in interpersonal connection. And that’s okay. Everyone’s brain is wired differently—and that includes how we give and receive information.

🌻 Now: What I’ve Come to Understand

Fast forward to today, and I can say this with peace:

Not everyone is meant to understand you—and that doesn’t make your message any less worthy.

Over the years, I’ve worked with artists, entertainers, patients, coworkers, and strangers. I’ve had moments where my intentions were dismissed or ignored. I’ve offered ideas only to have them brushed aside—sometimes misunderstood, sometimes received with silence. But I’ve also had moments where someone finally got it. Where a connection clicked. Where a message landed.

What’s changed in me is how I respond when it doesn’t.

Instead of pushing harder, I pause.

Instead of frustration, I try curiosity.

And when I feel the disconnection is too wide—I let it go with love.

💬 Communication Styles Matter

We spend a lot of time these days learning each other’s “love languages.” But maybe we should also be learning each other’s communication styles.

Some people need visuals. Some need patience and repetition. Some need direct, concrete examples. Some will never fully get what you mean—and that’s not a failure.

The key is knowing your own style, understanding your intention, and staying open to adjusting your approach without compromising your truth.

🧘‍♀️ Closing Thought

I still believe communication is key—maybe now more than ever.

But I’ve learned that part of effective communication is emotional flexibility. It’s the ability to say:

“This is what I meant. I’m sorry it didn’t land. I’ll try again—or maybe I won’t. And that’s okay too.”

Whether it’s personal, professional, or spiritual, communication shapes our human experience. So take a breath. Speak your truth. And know that being misunderstood sometimes doesn’t mean you’re wrong—it just means the channel was different.

Keep trying. Keep refining. Keep calm.

Communication is still the key. 🔑

🌾 Closing Reflection

Communication has always been a thread woven through my life’s work—whether guiding artists, advocating for patients, or navigating personal relationships. Over time, I’ve come to understand that the goal isn’t always perfect understanding. Sometimes, it’s simply offering your truth with clarity, compassion, and peace—and knowing when to release the outcome.

If you’ve ever felt unheard, misunderstood, or dismissed…

take a breath.

Honor your effort.

Adjust if needed.

And remember—how someone receives you says more about them than it does about you.

Stay rooted in who you are. Speak with heart. And trust that the right ears will hear you.

Because communication is still the key.

With grace,

LadyFlava

Real Talk. Always.

✨ LadyFlava of LadyFlavaNews

Revisiting The Subject “Communication”