Saturday Real Talk

Wigs. Eyelashes. Body Shapers. And the Places That Shape Our Choices

I’ve been thinking about wigs, eyelashes, and body shapers — and not from a place of criticism, but from curiosity.

Why do women go to extremes?

Is it self-love?

Is it attention?

Is it confidence… or insecurity?

Or is it simply about surviving the expectations placed on us?

The more I sat with it, the more I realized something important:

Context matters.

When I lived in Las Vegas, wigs were a hard yes.

So were dramatic lashes and body shapers.

And it wasn’t always about hiding or insecurity.

A lot of it came down to convenience.

Not wanting to constantly care for hair in heat, hard water, and a fast-paced lifestyle.

Wanting the freedom to change up a look without committing to hours of upkeep.

In Vegas, switching your look wasn’t questioned — it was normal.

It was creative.

It was playful.

It was practical.

Wigs weren’t about hating your hair.

They were about control — of time, energy, and choice.

Now I live in Seattle… and I hardly see any of it.

No dramatic wigs everywhere.

No fly-away lashes brushing eyebrows.

No obvious body shapers shaping the room before the woman enters it.

Seattle moves differently.

This city values comfort, function, and authenticity.

Weather matters. Walking matters. Real life matters.

You’re not rewarded for performance here — you’re rewarded for being able to live in your body day after day.

And that’s when it clicked for me:

This conversation isn’t really about beauty trends.

It’s about environment.

Vegas invites reinvention.

Seattle invites grounding.

Vegas asks, Who do you want to be tonight?

Seattle asks, Who are you when nobody’s watching?

Neither is wrong.

They just ask different things of women.

Men’s opinions on wigs, lashes, makeup, and shapewear are all over the map — some prefer natural, some enjoy enhancement, some don’t care at all. But focusing too much on what men think misses the bigger picture.

The real question isn’t why women do these things.

The real question is:

What problem is this solving for her?

Is it time?

Is it safety?

Is it confidence?

Is it freedom?

Is it creativity?

Sometimes wigs are armor.

Sometimes lashes are fun.

Sometimes shapewear is confidence.

Sometimes it’s survival.

And sometimes… it’s just preference.

I’m not anti-wig.

I’m not anti-lashes.

I’m not anti-shapewear.

I’m pro-choice.

I’m pro-awareness.

I’m pro-women understanding why they choose what they choose — without shame.

Because when a woman feels safe, seen, and accepted, she doesn’t need to perform.

She gets to decide.

And that’s the difference between enhancement and erasure.

Wear what makes you feel good.

Just don’t forget who you are underneath it.

That’s Real Talk.