Stuck People

I realize what I’ve been missing in my life. I need stimulation. I need forward thinking conversations. I crave challenging conversations that cause thinking and taking action. I have missed a topic that pushes me outside my current thought process. I need more than what I have been experiencing.

I’m a people watcher. I pay attention, sometimes I am caught staring. I watch movements, interactions, eye contact, the way people dress and how they carry themselves.

I pay attention to what is said, how it’s said, or even what’s not said.

I pay attention to how people are around different kinds of people, how they present online and in person.

I you how there are these sayings that go around and on social media, like the above one. They are great and should be inspiring, right? I hope but wonder.

I am beginning to think more people are stuck. I see people doing the same thing, having the same conversations, not exploring anything new. And I hate to admit, I became one of them.

My problems became huge because there was nothing else for me to focus my attention on that was fresh and exciting.

Maybe it’s the pandemic that changed life. I felt that the blessing of the pandemic was time to be with self. To reflect, dream and possibly plot and plan what could be experienced once it was safe to be amongst others again.

Entertainment came back the same. Conversations at work is the same stressful topics. Conversations with friends and family are the same. No joyful stories, very little laughter and a monotone sound across our interactions.

This is when I have been thinking more and more people are just existing, coasting through life…. Just being stuck.

I’ve tried to encourage people to think outside their boxes. I identify what I see their strengths are, or exploring topics that could turn into projects….but it feels like it has gone in one ear and out the others.

There have been moments where I feel I have inspired someone, and I am trying to sit back and watch or listen to see if anything is taking place.

I have some hopes recently, I’ll see what happens. It’s been fun to share encouragement and help share information about how to start the process of planning.

I do believe that there is a sense of fear. That fear of the unknown of the outcome of stepping out on faith.

Sometimes, people find it more comfortable to stay doing what they’ve been doing than to try something different. STAYING STICK…is more comfortable, even when it’s expressed that they would like a different outcome.

For someone like myself, I realize how it discourages me to be around people that don’t plot and plan and take action.

I thrive off of being involved with people that are dreamers and doers. I’ve been a dreamer and doer I believe my whole life.

My daughter once told me that I was a risk taker and I have been. I have started businesses and been involved in exciting projects that I’m proud of.

I was always willing to see things from a different perspective. Try to find a better solution. I’m good at connecting with others and deciphering what their needs are and the steps to bring about the needed outcomes.

I realized that there is something to this post. I do believe because of the people I have been connected to, a part of me has died. I stopped dreaming and plotting and planning. I can still see the need and have stepped up to create professional tools to be helpful for others, and they never used it. It hurt and has frustrated me, but I’ve learned to step back and let them do things on their terms and to not take it personally.

At the same time, I realized that I could not stay so closely connected…it is not healthy for me. I need to find solutions versus staying stuck with no growth

Are you a doer who is forward thinking or are you simply STUCK?

Think about it 🤔

LadyFlava of LadyFlavaNews

Thinking Out Loud

1 Comment (+add yours?)

  1. Delon
    Mar 24, 2023 @ 01:52:39

    Hey Flava. Wow..this really hit home for me. I can admit I’ve been Stuck. Probably for a long time. I think you hit it on the head. Safe is the enemy of Progress. Yes, here and there I’ve made some progresses but under the veil of being sometimes too safe. Something I need to work on. I hope others will absorb your words. Great points.

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