🌻 What Is Conflict Resolution? — Simply Flava’s View

Conflict resolution is really just a fancy way of saying:

“How do we calm this situation down so everybody walks away better, not bitter?”

Every conflict has layers — emotions, misunderstandings, expectations, and sometimes just two tired people bumping into each other’s limits.

But conflict resolution is about finding a way through without losing yourself in the mess.

Google gives it structure.

Life gives it meaning.

Here’s the real breakdown…

🌼 The Five Common Approaches (Thomas-Kilmann Model)

1. Avoiding

Stepping back, postponing, or saying,

“Not today, my spirit can’t carry this.”

Good for when you need to cool off.

Bad if you never circle back.

2. Competing

This is the “I’m right and that’s that” energy.

Works if you need to take a firm stand…

But it can burn bridges if you use it too often.

3. Accommodating

Giving in to keep the peace.

Sometimes necessary.

But if you make this your default, you lose pieces of yourself.

4. Compromising

Both people give a little.

No one gets everything, but no one walks away empty either.

A solid middle ground.

5. Collaborating

My personal favorite.

Two people choosing to sit down, be honest, and figure out a solution that works for both sides.

Takes maturity, but it’s the most healing.

🌿 Key Skills for Real-Life Conflict Resolution

• Active listening

Not listening to respond —

listening to understand.

• Calm communication

Expressing feelings without attacking.

Being honest without being cruel.

• Perspective-taking

Stepping into the other person’s shoes long enough to see why they reacted the way they did.

• Finding the root

Most conflicts aren’t about the surface issue.

It’s the emotion underneath.

• Setting ground rules

No yelling.

No low blows.

No interrupting.

Respect first.

• Brainstorming solutions

Not “who wins,” but “what truly solves this?”

• Agreeing on next steps

Clear, simple, doable.

• Mediators if needed

A third person who helps keep the conversation steady and fair.

🌟 Flava’s Personal Strategy for Conflict

Let me tell you what works for me:

I start by pausing.

Not shutting down — just pausing.

I need a moment to collect my emotions so I don’t speak from hurt, frustration, or that “I’m done” energy.

Then I listen.

And I try to understand what the other person is really saying, not just their tone.

When I finally speak, I speak honestly but gently.

I don’t sugarcoat, but I don’t slice either.

And I always ask myself:

“Do I want to be right, or do I want peace?”

Because sometimes peace teaches more than winning ever will.

🌻 **Now I’ll ask you:

What is your go-to conflict resolution style?

Have you ever switched approaches as you’ve grown?**

Tell me your story.

— Simply Flava 💛🌼🐆