Why Subpar Doesn’t Sit Right With Me**

Let me tell the truth the way I live it…

I’m a woman who doesn’t do subpar.

Not in my work.

Not in my home.

Not in my relationships.

Not in my spirit.

It’s not about being perfect — I don’t need perfection from anyone.

But I do expect effort, intention, pride, and respect for whatever space you walk into.

See… I was raised by people who believed in doing things well.

If you were going to show up,

you showed up with your whole self.

You paid attention.

You took pride in the details.

You didn’t half-do things and then shrug.

And somewhere along the way, I realized something:

Subpar drains me.

It pulls on my spirit.

It irritates my peace.

It makes everything feel heavier than it needs to be.

Because when people operate below the standard they’re capable of,

it shifts the whole atmosphere.

It creates confusion.

It invites chaos.

It forces someone else — usually the most seasoned person in the room —

to carry the weight of what others didn’t do.

And that used to be me.

I’d step in quietly, smoothing edges, fixing messes, holding everything together.

But that kind of work?

It will empty you.

What I’ve learned is this:

**Excellence is a choice.

Subpar is a habit.**

And the gap between those two is intention.

You can’t control other people’s choices, their work ethic, or their pride in what they do.

But you can choose your lane.

You can choose your peace.

You can choose not to carry the weight of someone else’s lack.

These days, I’m working on releasing the need to fix subpar systems —

not because I stopped caring, but because I started caring more about myself.

And maybe that’s part of growing into a seasoned woman…learning to let people sit in the results of their choices while you sit in the protection of your peace.

Let me end with this…

How do YOU feel about subpar?

Does it drain you?

Do you tolerate it?

Or do you rise above it?

I’d love to hear your thoughts.

🌻✨

Simply Flava