🌻 Be Honest With Yourself | Series Vol. 1

What’s Your Role in the Madness?

Have you ever taken the time to evaluate your own actions or character regarding a situation or circumstance that you regularly complain about?

Have you claimed others as the problem and put the responsibility on them?

If you answered yes, ask yourself — why did I determine that they are the problem? And what might their “why” be?

Now, my next question is: what is your role in the situation?

Be honest — did you play a part in what transpired? Was it something you said, or maybe your body language?

Or are you sitting back and complaining about something you witnessed but weren’t directly involved in?

My point is this:

What is our role in the madness around us?

Are we part of it — or are we working toward a solution?

You’re either part of the problem or part of the solution.

When I was coming up, our neighbors knew each other. Adults were the law in my community. There wasn’t much talking back or disobeying because you knew there would be consequences.

Life wasn’t perfect, but we understood respect — for parents, for elders, for boundaries. We knew not to cross the line, or there would be conflict that could’ve been avoided.

As I became an adult, and especially when I became a mom, I valued the way I was raised.

But we live in a world today where blaming others is everywhere. Rarely do we pause to look within and say, “What was my role?”

Am I instigating the situation? Am I turning a blind eye?

Or am I working toward resolution and peace?

At 65, I can say this — I’ve learned to speak my truth, but I’ve also learned to pick and choose my battles. The biggest growth I’ve experienced is understanding my why.

It’s possible to change perspective, to shift your role in the situation.

And when I realize I’ve played a negative part in the madness, I process it.

I reflect on what I could have done differently — for future reference, for peace.

Because that’s what growth looks like.

🌻 A Closing Thought

Sometimes, the peace we’re searching for begins when we take an honest look at our own reflection — not to judge, but to understand.