Health & Wellness | Saturday

People Come Into Your Life for a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime

I’ve heard this saying many times over the years:

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.

Lately, it’s been landing differently.

Because not everyone stays.

And not everyone is supposed to.

Some people come in to teach you something.

Some come to walk beside you for a while.

And a few — the rare ones — stay and grow with you.

The tricky part isn’t the people who stay.

It’s the ones who leave before things feel finished.

The Unfinished Room Theory

There’s a concept called The Unfinished Room Theory, and when I heard it, it stopped me in my tracks.

It suggests that every person who enters your life builds or remodels a room in your inner house — your emotional space, your psyche, your nervous system.

When someone leaves mid-renovation, they don’t just walk out…

they leave behind clutter.

Unfinished conversations.

Unanswered questions.

Unresolved feelings.

Unspoken goodbyes.

And those unfinished rooms quietly take up energy.

Your mind keeps wandering back there, checking the walls, replaying moments, wondering what you missed — instead of resting fully in the present.

Why It Affects Your Health

This isn’t just emotional — it’s physical.

Unfinished emotional business can show up as:

mental fatigue

irritability

difficulty trusting

chronic stress or tension feeling “on edge” without knowing why

Your nervous system doesn’t love loose ends.

It wants safety.

It wants clarity.

It wants closure — even imperfect closure.

Closure Doesn’t Mean Reconciliation

This part matters.

Closure does not mean reopening doors.

It does not mean explaining yourself again.

It does not mean giving someone access they no longer deserve.

Sometimes closure is:

deciding you are done

keeping the lesson,

not the person

acknowledging the role they played and mentally boarding up that room

Not out of bitterness — but out of self-respect.

Reclaiming Your Inner House

Your inner space is yours.

You get to decide:

which rooms get remodeled

which memories stay

which patterns get changed

and which doors stay closed

When you take ownership of your emotional house, your body relaxes.

Your breathing softens.

Your thoughts slow down.

Your energy returns to you.

That’s wellness.

A Gentle Reminder

Not everyone was meant to stay.

But everyone meant something.

And when you honor that —

without dragging the weight forward

— you create space for healthier connections, deeper peace, and a calmer nervous system.

Your house doesn’t need to be perfect.

It just needs to feel safe.