Tuesday Real Talk

You Can’t See How Someone’s Brain Works

I’m fascinated by how people’s brains work.

You can look at someone — polished, calm, smiling — and have absolutely no idea what is happening inside their head.

You can’t see:

Who spirals.

Who overthinks.

Who replays conversations for hours.

Who shuts down.

Who reacts fast.

Who pauses before responding.

Who has trained their mind.

Who hasn’t.

Two people can experience the exact same situation and walk away with two completely different internal stories.

One says, “That was disrespectful.”

The other says, “Maybe they’re having a bad day.”

Same moment.

Different interpretation.

Different emotional outcome.

That’s the part that fascinates me.

Most people think their thoughts are facts.

They’re not.

They’re interpretations.

And interpretations can shift.

You don’t always control the first thought that pops up. Your brain is wired for protection, memory, pattern recognition. It reacts quickly.

But you do have influence over the next thought.

That pause — that tiny space between reaction and response — is powerful.

You can ask:

Is this helpful?

Is this accurate?

Is there another way to look at this?

That’s not pretending things don’t hurt.

That’s not ignoring reality.

That’s mental stewardship.

You may not control what happens to you.

But you can learn to influence the meaning you assign to it.

And that changes everything.

You can’t tell how someone’s brain works just by looking at them.

But you can train your own.

And that’s where real power lives.

— Lady Flava 🌻