🌻 The Recipe for “Normal” — According to a Seasoned Soul

Some lady said this morning that normal is whatever works for each individual.

And I sat there thinking… well, that sure opens Pandora’s gray-area box, doesn’t it?

Because if everything can be normal, then nothing really is.

Yet here we are — living in a world where everyone has an opinion, an interpretation, a label, and a reason why their version is the gold standard.

You can talk about personality types, but you better not sound like you’re diagnosing.

You can mention neurodivergent and neurotypical, but watch your wording.

You can explore identity, but only if you do it with a degree, a disclaimer, and a prayer.

Meanwhile, society out here giving people free passes to reinvent “normal” every time the wind changes direction.

So I asked myself…

If the world won’t define normal anymore, then what’s the recipe?

What ingredients does a person need to throw in the bowl to honestly say, “Yep, this right here is my normal”?

Well… let me write it the way my spirit heard it.

🍳 Lady Flava’s Recipe for Normal

Serves: One human trying to stay grounded in 2025.

Ingredients

1 cup of what keeps you functioning day to day

2 tablespoons of lived experience — the kind you don’t learn on Google

A dash of cultural seasoning from wherever your roots grew

A handful of quirks that make folks tilt their heads and smile

1 scoop of coping skills (some polished, some still in progress)

½ teaspoon of “I’m learning as I go”

A sprinkle of boundaries

Optional: layers of neurodivergence, trauma healing, personality wiring, gender identity, faith, doubt, compassion

Instructions

Start with who you really are — not the version you perform for people.

Add your strengths and your imperfections.

Don’t overmix.

Fold in the culture you come from — it adds flavor and depth.

Stir in your communication style, your preferences, your rhythms.

Season with self-awareness.

Taste as you go.

Let maturity, lessons, and time simmer everything together.

Serve warm with compassion — for yourself first, then for others.

Chef’s Truth:

There is no universal recipe.

Every kitchen — every mind, every story — cooks differently.

But here’s what I do believe:

Normal is whatever keeps a person grounded, functional, respectful, and growing — without harming themselves or others.

Everything else?

Interpretation.

Opinion.

Seasoned to taste.

And maybe that’s what today’s world is trying to teach us…

Not to chase a single definition of normal, but to understand the ingredients that make us whole, steady, and real.