Friday A Taste of Flava

Why Truth & Transparency Matter So Much to Me

There is something about me that has remained consistent throughout my life.

I will speak my truth.

Not to hurt people.

Not to create chaos.

Not to be “the loud one in the room.”

But because truth and transparency matter deeply to me.

And honestly?

Life taught me why.

I have lived through moments where people were not honest.

Moments where reality shifted underneath my feet while I was still standing there believing everything was solid.

That changes a person.

At some point, truth stops feeling like a preference and starts feeling like peace.

Because even hard truth feels safer to me than confusion, avoidance, mixed signals, hidden agendas, or pretending everything is okay when it is not.

That is probably why side conversations have never really been my thing.

If something matters enough for me to emotionally carry it, then I believe it matters enough to respectfully say it out loud to the people who actually need to hear it.

That showed up in me even when I was younger.

I remember one situation involving my daughter during high school. My Army boyfriend, who literally drove two hours after work just to be present and support my daughter.

Now let me tell you something… 🤣

As things were being said in that meeting, he kept quietly poking me under the table with his keys because he already knew I was about two seconds away from speaking up.

My daddy would attend meetings with me for my girls to do the same thing.

And honestly? That still makes me laugh because my daddy was the exact same way. I think it was probably wild for him to suddenly see his daughter carrying that same fire inside her too.

I have always had a strong reaction to unfairness, especially when it involves people I love.

But life has also taught me something else:

there is a difference between reacting emotionally and speaking intentionally.

As I’ve gotten older, I have learned how to:

pause pray through things choose my timing choose my words and still remain truthful

That matters to me.

Even recently at work, I spoke openly in our all-staff huddle about how emotionally heavy the patient phone experience has become during transitions and changes.

Not because I wanted to attack anyone.

Not because I wanted drama.

But because I believe silence can create the illusion that everything is fine when it is not.

Truth matters.

Honesty matters.

Transparency matters.

And I think people can feel the difference between someone trying to create problems and someone simply trying to create clarity.

At the end of the day, I would rather have an honest conversation than a fake peaceful one.

That is just who I am.

— Lady Flava 🌻