🌻 Thursday Real Talk: The Art of Loving Your Own Company

I’ve been thinking about this…

When a person chooses to spend time alone, people often misunderstand it.

Sometimes they take it personal.

Sometimes they assume something is wrong.

Sometimes they label it as depression.

But what if it’s none of that?

What if it’s a choice?

During COVID, when I was living in Vegas, I learned something about myself.

I embraced my alone time.

Not in a sad way.

Not in a disconnected way.

👉 In a way that helped me understand my why.

To this day, I still prefer my alone time over dealing with people in person.

And I’m okay with saying that.

Someone close to me once said they knew I was depressed in my space.

I had to stop them right there.

👉 Depression is not my story.

Do I have moments? Yes.

But I don’t feel hopeless.

I don’t feel lost.

👉 I feel calm.

👉 I feel fulfilled.

👉 I feel at peace.

My space gives me everything I need and more.

Vegas—and that season of the pandemic—taught me something powerful:

👉 how to depend on myself

I learned how to:

move through life on my own terms

handle my business without needing to explain everything

create a life that works for me

Even now, I don’t always feel the need to discuss everything with others… not even my family.

And they don’t always like that.

But here’s the part I find interesting…

Some people internalize my choices.

👉 If I don’t reach out, they think it’s about them.

It’s not.

👉 This is a me thing.

Loving your own company is not rejection.

It’s not isolation.

It’s not something broken.

👉 It’s self-awareness.

👉 It’s knowing you are enough in your own presence.

👉 It’s self-trust.

I process my thoughts through writing.

I reflect.

I sit with myself.

And I’m good there.

So let me ask you something…

👉 Do you spend time alone with yourself?

Or…

👉 Do you feel the need to always be connected to others?

There’s no right or wrong answer.

But it should be your choice.

So I’m curious…

👉 Do you like your own company?

It’s something worth thinking about. 😉

Lady Flava 🌻

👉 If this made you think about your own story, you can share it in the comments or write me at DearFlava@gmail.com.

You can stay anonymous.

Lady Flava 🌻