Category: Flava’s thoughts…
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Life|🌻 Asking Questions, Part 2: Finding Safe Spaces
🌻 Asking Questions, Part 2: Finding Safe Spaces As I’ve aged, I’ve noticed something: many young people seem to think they have all the answers—or don’t want you to think they don’t know. Seniors, on the other hand, sometimes aren’t sure what to ask, or who they should even ask. The truth is, asking questions…
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Life|65|Feeling Comfortable to Ask Questions
🌻 Feeling Comfortable to Ask Questions As adults, we often shy away from asking questions. Somewhere along the way, we pick up the idea that asking means we don’t know enough, or that it might make us look “less than.” But the truth is—asking is how we grow. Why We Don’t Ask Fear of judgment:…
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Life|65|🗳️ Politics Made Simple
🗳️ Politics Made Simple: A Flava Reflection I’ll be honest—I don’t understand politics well. Maybe you feel the same way? It can feel like a confusing swirl of buzzwords, arguments, and headlines that make it hard to know what’s really going on. But here’s the thing: politics doesn’t have to be complicated. At its heart,…
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Life|65|A Smile in a Cup 🍂☕️
Fall Reflections & A Smile in a Cup 🍂☕️ Fall is clearly making itself known—the tips of the trees are turning golden, and the air carries that crispness only Seattle knows how to deliver. It’s the kind of season that calls for cuddling under a warm fuzzy blanket (mine, of course, is leopard print 😉),…
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Life|Kindness|When Kindness Meets Compatibility
When Kindness Meets Compatibility Lately, I’ve been reflecting on the stories I hear from younger people around me. Many of them are navigating relationships that feel both full of sweetness and yet layered with challenges. Sometimes there’s a partner who is considerate in small but meaningful ways — remembering to bring something thoughtful, offering a…
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Life|65|Covid is Still Around
Why I’m Not Afraid of Covid Anymore I lived through the craziness of Covid. When the pandemic first arrived, none of us truly understood what we were facing. I cried so hard the day I realized I had sat with a stroke patient for 10 days straight, only to learn they had contracted Covid. I…
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Life|65|Thank You, Mommy and Daddy
Thank You, Mommy and Daddy 🌻 As I continue my journey, I find myself finally understanding you both more deeply. Mommy — you were quiet, steady, and strong. You poured yourself into being a wife and mother, creating a home filled with peace and order. You protected our space from chaos, and in doing so,…
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Life|65|Meet Lady Flava 6.5+
I Don’t Miss Who I Was, I Embrace Who I Am There was a time when Lady Flava was everywhere. It was like an addiction — half my choice, half because others wanted me to be involved. The work consumed me, but it was work I became good at and respected for. I thrived on…
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Flava’s Cowboy Coffee – In Memory of My Daddy
My daddy was a man of the people — all people. When I was born, he was serving as minister of the Japanese Baptist Church in Seattle. Not long after, he and my mom purchased our family home in the Central Area/Capitol Hill neighborhood, where I was raised. I went to predominantly Black schools, and…

